Sometimes I catch myself being a “helicopter mom” to Clark. Following close behind him, ready to catch him if he stumbles. “Hovering” when Connor and Clark are chasing each other or wrestling. Patrick keeps having to remind me that Clark can handle his tumbles now. He doesn’t bruise the way he used to. I’ve even allowed the boys to play in the dirt (a bit), since the bacteria in the soil is no longer a danger to him. This freedom Clark now has, is giving me some freedom as well. I still worry, but sometimes I just have to close my eyes and trust that Clark is strong enough.
As a test to my new freedom, Patrick and I had an opportunity to take a night away. As in, no kids for a WHOLE night!! We have NEVER done this before!
Patrick’s mom had some time off, and wanted to come down for a visit. Only a 2 week visit, not the 5 months like before. ;) Connor had recently been asking for Grandmom, so this was perfect timing. When she offered to watch the boys so we could get some TLC, my 1st thought was “That wont be possible”…. until I realized that Clark is no longer on his medications (just some eye drops), AND he doesn’t have a broviac! So, Patrick and I said “HELL YEAH!”
On Day +201, Patrick and I stayed at a cute English pub with just 7 rooms, a pub, restaurant and a “snug” (a cozy, warm parlor room off the pub) just for hotel guests.
Patrick and I had the most wonderful night away, filled with a candlelit dinner, games in the parlor, and a luxurious sleep in our king sized bed. The next morning we were able to work off our full English breakfast with a steep hike overlooking the ocean.
“I intensely love my children, but only mildly miss them [today]…” -Patrick
Patrick won “quote of the day” with his quip about the elation and sadness of a 1 day escape from parenthood.
I am so happy that you and Patrick were able to get away together. Patrick’s Mom sounds like such a wonderful woman and a fabulous GrandMom! Love to all.